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Archive for November, 2007

Dealing with the Holidays and Other Get-Togethers – Episode 14

Friday, November 30th, 2007

Dealing with Holiday StressHere is the topic of today, How to Deal with the Holidays and Other “Get-Togethers”.

Can you say “stress”!?  For many people the holiday season and other social gatherings are very stressful.  In this Secret Language of Feelings program I will talk about where some of that stress comes from and how you can respond to it without going nuts (and distracting).

Where does holiday stress come from?  The demands of this time of year are many.  There are gift buying and money issues, as well as travel and family dynamics as well, just to name of few.

Really there are three contributing factors:

  • The past – resonating and over responding and avoidance.

  • The present – real anger, fear, frustration and depression.

  • The future – paying bills and going back to “real life”

Dealing with it all without distracting involves knowing and using 1-2-3.  If you don’t do that, then you greatly increase the chance of distracting, and that means too much holiday drinking and eating (or worse)!

  1. Name the feeing

  2. Determine the cause of the feeling.

  3. Plan A – Engage in a satisfying response

    • Reality Check – This is big!

    • If the feelings are based in reality respond to it in a satisfying way. This leads to happiness!

  4. Plan B – Distract

    • Don’t do anything that illegal, immoral or fattening

Remember hypnosis can help, especially when you are working with a 5-PATH® trained hypnotist or hypnotherapist. 7th Path Self-Hypnosis® is a great alternative when you cannot see a 5-PATH® hypnosis professional.

Now get out there and enjoy yourself!  Ho, ho, ho! ☺

How to Be Happy! – Episode 13

Friday, November 9th, 2007

How To Be HappyEveryone wants to be happy, but most people don’t know how to attain a state of happiness in a reliable way.  Certainly, happiness is not just attained by avoiding pain, but by doing something much more than that.  Everyone knows, happiness does not come from addiction and mindlessly indulging in bad habits such as smoking too much, drinking too much, and so on.

How would your life change if you had a reliable system of attaining happiness?  How would you like to have a system for making yourself and the people you care about happy, and you could do that in reliable and predictable ways?  Everyone would love to have that knowledge!  That is what this program is all about.  We have a happiness system for you, and you guessed it, it is as easy as 1 – 2 – 3.

So, why do people have such a difficult time finding happiness?  Well, happiness isn’t something that is taught in schools (you were supposed to pay attention and focus on your work), it isn’t taught in family circles (that is where we learned to distract ourselves from our feelings), and unfortunately, if we learn anything at all about where to find happiness it comes from the media.  For the most part, the media attempts to sell us happiness! Through the use of commercials and other types of influence, they try to teach us that happiness comes from buying what they are selling. We are taught that if we have (the car, the clothing, the hair style, and so on), whatever products that they want to sell us, then we will be happy.  Other than that, we just don’t seem to put much time in thinking about what kinds of things will really make us happy.

Now, you have The Secret Language of Feelings, and you have a rational approach to understanding feelings and emotions.  Now, you can begin to understand that all your feelings are really there to motivate you to do things that will make you happy, and that is what this program is all about.

So, now, all you have to do is to sit back and listen to the program, and if you have The Secret Language of Feelings book, read on, there are tons of tips in there as well.  It is time to give some long overdue attention to the topic of happiness.

Need some more help or want to get into the discussion? If you want additional coaching join our group on Yahoo at or call our office at 800-965-3390 or 714-258-8380.  We can also provide you with information about how to become receive training and become a hypnosis professional or 7th Path Teacher.

The Wisdom of Feeling Fearful – Episode 12

Friday, November 2nd, 2007

Doing 1-2-3 For FearFear is good when it comes from accurate perceptions.  If you don’t understand this fact you leave yourself open to dangerous situations, and you are very likely to get stuck in that feel bad – distract cycle.

People don’t understand that all feelings are good, so the hurt themselves through distraction.

  • Imagine how much better you will feel if you could quickly resolve your fears and spend a whole lot less time, almost to time feeling frustrated or depressed. How would that affect your life?

  • I promise you that you can feel better now. You can overcome bad habits and self-destructive behavior.

  • This is what has changed. Now, we have The Secret Language of Feelings, a rational approach to emotions that gives you a system that will enable you to feel better quickly.

In this audio program, you lean about how to put an end to feeling fearful unnecessarily, and how to respond to it in a satisfying way. This way, you won’t eat too much, drink too much, smoke too much, and so on.

Fear has so many names, including feeling nervous, worried, stressed, and anxious. ear, by whatever name, is there to motivate you to keep yourself, the people you care about and the things that you care about safe.  This is all a good thing.

Wouldn’t you like to feel fearful less?  This is how you can accomplish that. Do 1-2-3 and then you respond to emotions in a satisfying way.

Sometimes this won’t work, because you are experiencing Emotional Resonance. You do your Reality Check and you still feel afraid, this means that you are feeling fearful because something in the present is causing an old feeling from the past to come up.

In this session I talk about a case history where one of my clients was able to overcome her shyness (another word for fear) using The Secret Language of Feelings, 5-PATH® Hypnosis and 7th Path Self-Hypnosis® together. As a result her confidence increased dramatically and she was very grateful for the changes that she experienced in her life.

If you find that you are suffering from the feel bad – distract cycle, keep listening to the program and you will learn how to take back control and start feeling better. You might also like to get the book, The Secret Language of Feelings, and if you want to work with a trained professional give our office a call at 714-258-8380.  And, as always, you can join in on the conversation by joining our special group on the topic at