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Archive for October, 2007

The Dialogue Has Begun: Our First Question and Answer Episode – Episode 11

Tuesday, October 23rd, 2007

Reader Questions and AnswersIn this episode, “the dialogue has begun,” so to speak, in that I respond to some listener feedback. Plus, I talk about the discussion on our Secret Language Of Feelings group on Yahoo.

Then I go a bit farther and share with you some interactions I have had with some other groups on the Internet. It has become very apparent that there is a need out there for people to begin to understand the difference between anger and frustration.  I’m doing my best to teach them that:

  • Anger comes from the perception that things are unfair.

  • Frustration comes from the perception that what you are doing is not working.

  • Anger is a primary feeling and frustration is a secondary feeling.

Then I wrap it up with a bit of a discussion about how we can help our children to understand and use the Secret Language of Feelings. This turned out to be a bit of detailed discussion, so you might want to give it a listen two or three times.

What do you think about the difference between anger and frustration? Why do you think people get these two emotions confused? Leave a comment and let me know what you think.

Emotional Resonance is the Key to Understanding Over Reaction – Episode 10

Tuesday, October 2nd, 2007

Emotional Resonance is the Key to Understanding Over ReactionHave you ever overreacted, or have you ever seen someone else overreact? I’m sure that you are very familiar with what I am talking about (unless you live on top of a mountain and grew up in a monastery or something).

Yes, indeed, sometimes people overreact and get too mad or too sad or find themselves being too fearful for a given circumstance. When this happens, these people act in some very immature ways. Today you will learn why that happens. Today you learn about Emotional Resonance!

Stop coping with your feelings! Give up on anger management right now! It really is the wrong way to deal with your emotions. Doing 1 – 2 – 3 does much more.

Understand the principle of Emotional Resonance, and you no longer have to control or manage your feelings. There is hope! You can become one of those individuals who is really “cool, calm, and collected.”

The Wisdom of Using 7th Path Self-Hypnosis – Episode 9

Tuesday, October 2nd, 2007

The Wisdom of Using 7th Path Self-HypnosisAs you have been following along with the program, I have mentioned 7th Path Self-Hypnosis®. I think that one of the most frequently asked questions that I have been asked since I started this series is, “What is 7th Path Self-Hypnosis?”

My background is in psychology, spirituality and hypnosis. As I conducted thousands of hypnosis sessions, and supervised hypnotherapists who have conducted thousands more around the world, I was inspired to produce three different systems:

  1. 5-PATH®

  2. The Secret Language of Feelings

  3. 7th Path Self-Hypnosis®

Of these three, I am most proud of 7th Path Self-Hypnosis®. It is a very powerful way for you to make changes quickly and effectively, while working in the privacy of your own mind. It works even when everything else that you have tried has failed, if you learn how to use the process correctly. Most people will see a positive change by practicing this new method of self-hypnosis during the first few basic 5 minute practice sessions. In 4 to 6 weeks, they experience a profound positive change in their lives.

Who benefits from 7th Path™? For example, those who have done 1 – 2 – 3 may have found that sometimes when they do the “reality check” to assess if their feelings are based in reality or not, they say to themselves, “I know that I have no real reason for feeling this angry in the situation or this fearful, but I still do.” This means that there is a belief or emotion that has kind of “gotten stuck” inside of them some time in their past. 7th Path Self-Hypnosis® was designed to get rid of that kind of problem and any other kind of limiting belief or problematic emotional issue. 7th Path Self-Hypnosis® simply works on whatever is causing you to not be successful.

7th Path™ also teaches you how to program yourself for success in life. It is an incredibly simple process than you can start using right away. To learn more about the program or to order the distance learning course go to,

The Wisdom of Using Distractors as “Plan B” – Episode 8

Tuesday, October 2nd, 2007

Distractors Can Be GoodThe title of this program is, The Wisdom of Using Distractors as Plan B. In this program I discuss when using distractors would be a good thing to do. Distractors can be an important part of our plan to be happier and more successful.

Listen in, and you will hear all about how to use distractors as Plan B, so that you can delay gratification when you need to.

Remember distractors can be used in a productive way when:

  1. It is not in your best interest, at a particular time, to attempt to satisfying your feelings

  2. You recognize that you are only distracting and not really taking care of the problem.

  3. You recognize that the distractor works best when it is not illegal, immoral or fattening!

Tips on using distractors:

  1. Plan your distractors in advance.

  2. Keep that list with you.

  3. Have distractors for different periods of time, i.e., 5, or 10 minutes, or a half hour to an hour long. So you are ready for different situations.

  4. Just about anything that you think is fun, interesting, or is a growth experience would be a good thing to put on the list (within reason of course).

So, now you will have Plan A and Plan B. Plan A, consists of satisfying your feelings. Plan B, consists of delaying satisfaction through indulging in a distractor (a healthy one of course).

The Wisdom of Guilt – Episode 7

Tuesday, October 2nd, 2007

Doing 1-2-3 for AngerAnger has a twin sister and her name is Guilt.  In this program I explain what anger and guilt have in common. There is more than you might think.

It is time to stop coping with your feelings!  Sometimes you are supposed to feel bad.  Even guilt is good once you begin to understand The Secret Language of Feelings.  That emotion, like all of your other painful emotions, is trying to talk to you.  There is a wisdom in this language.  Learn it, and you will spend a lot less time feeling bad and you will begin to live a life that is a great deal less emotionally painful and much more satisfying at the same time.

Learn how to respond to guilt in a satisfying way and everyone benefits.  You benefit, society benefits, and everyone who cares about you benefits. 

Enjoy the program.  Tell your friends.  This information can change a life.  Let’s get this information out those who can use it the most.  Together we can help our friends, loved ones, clients and patients feel much better and begin to lead happier and healthier lives.