Anger is good.  It is what you do with it that is either, good, bad, or ineffective.

In this audio program, I will talk about how to end the, feel bad – distract cycle and take back control of your life.  Not only that, I will talk about going far beyond coping with anger.  I will tell you why anger is good.  Did you know if there were no anger there would be no USA!  I explain that statement in the program.  There is wisdom in feeling anger once you know The Secret Language of Feelings.

It is time to stop feeling bad about feeling bad, especially when it comes to anger.  Anger does two important things. It is there to let you know that you have perceived a situation as being unfair, and to motivate you to do your best to make things fair.

I also discuss what you should do when things are unfair, but there is little or nothing that you can do.  Here is a hint, it has to do with the OTHER F-word! 

I hope you like this program.  If you find that you are suffering from the feel bad – distract cycle, keep listening to the program and you will learn how to take back control and start feeling better. You might also like to get the book, The Secret Language of Feelings, and if you want to work with a trained professional give our office a call at 714-258-8380.  And, as always, you can join in on the conversation by joining our special group on the topic at www.groups.yahoo.com/group/thesecretlanguageoffeelings.

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Too many people just don’t know how to be happy.  As you listen to this program you are going to find the key to happiness and how to stop all of those harmful habits such as eating too much, drinking too much, and so on without ever feeling deprived.

Learn 1-2-3 and you take back control of your life.  As you learn from this program and from the graphic on the left, this is a simple three-step process.

First, you need to name the feeling.  This is especially useful when you want to stop doing some kind of harmful behavior such as eating too much.  If you want to stop doing that, the next time you want to eat something you simply need to check to see if you are really physically hungry.  If you are not, then you are having a feeling, an emotion.  Name that feeling, and you will realize that there is nothing you can eat to make that feeling go away.  For example, if you are lonely, then eating a bag of potato chips is not going to bring someone new into your life.

Secondly, you need to identify why you are feeling that way.  Each feeling has a known cause.  Each cause-feeling relations ship that you need to know is covered in The Secret Language of Feelings book.

Thirdly, rather than distracting yourself from your feelings, you need to learn to respond in a satisfying way.  This is a behavior that will go to the cause of the problem.  For example, if you are lonely, calling a friend is a much better plan for removing the cause of your loneliness than eating a bag of potato chips!

I hope you will enjoy the program, and leave us a comment to let us know what you think of the program.

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What I am going over with you in this program is not something that I learned in graduate school.  It was learned by conducting thousands of hours of hypnosis with real clients, with real problems.  While doing that work, I had the opportunity to talk directly with the subconscious mind and learn what was causing the problem.  What I learned is that there was a painful emotion that was driving us to distraction and, as a result we eat too much, drink too much, shop too much, gamble too much, and so on.

One of the interesting things about that work is that some of my clients have been doctors, counselors, psychologists, and so on.  As I began to understand this secret language, I started explaining it to them.  After a while, I found it interesting to talk with them about what feelings are, and what they are really for.  I’d ask them and all my clients, “What are feelings for?”  Not surprisingly, most of them looked at me like I came from another planet!  It was like they didn’t even understand the question. 

I thought to myself, this lack of knowledge might make sense when you talk to the layperson, but what about those who were in the helping professions?  I’d have a doctor, psychologist, counselor, or social worker coming to see me in my office and I’d ask that same question, “What are feelings for?” I’d get the same look!  Almost none of them seemed to know what I was talking about or, they would strain to come up with an answer on the spot.  In my mind this is not a satisfactory situation.

Don’t you think that these professionals should have a clear understanding of what feelings are for?  These are the same folks that will diagnose others as being mentally ill, or maladjusted, and label them with some kind of disorder because they are feeling too sad, or too mad, or anxious or depressed!  Don’t you think that these professional s should have a clear understanding of what your feelings are for before they prescribe a medication to flatten out your emotions?  I do.

In this episode, I will break it down for everyone.  You will know exactly what feelings are for.  Then in the next episode, I will talk to you about how you can use this information by doing “1-2-3,” and as a result, start leading a much more satisfying, healthy, and happy life.  Keep checking back, and I’ll tell you all about it.

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In this program, I start to get into the story about why people do such crazy stuff, like eating too much when they want to lose weight, or drinking alcohol when they want to be sober, or working too much when they want to have a better home life and so on.

What you learn is that people have feelings that are painful, such as anger, sadness, loneliness, and such.  But since we have been made to feel bad about feeling bad, then we have learned to deny, ignore, and repress our feelings.  We learned somewhere along the way that we can do this by simply taking our mind off of the bad feeling and what is causing us to feel that way by placing our minds on something else.  As a result, when we feel bad, the over eaters eat, the drinkers drink, the smokers smoke, and the sex-aholics (well, you get the idea).

Take a look at the graphic on the left.  It shows how we can feel bad and then distract.  Then when the distraction is over, we feel bad once again.

This process is reinforced because we feel better when we distract, and the habit develops.  But it makes things worse.  Since we don’t do anything about what is causing the feeling, the feeling persists and leads to frustration.  We will talk more about this in the next program. 

When you learn how your feelings really work, you get back a sense of control in your life, and really begin to use a very special kind of innate wisdom that you have been ignoring.  Those feelings are there to help and guide you to a happier and more successful life.

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Learn the lessons in this program and you will spend a lot less time feeling frustrated!  Frustration is a kind of stress that is unhealthy when you let it go on too long because you don’t know what that feeling is “telling you to do.”

In this program, you will find how and why frustration develops, and how you can begin to respond to it in a much more satisfying way.  Really, all feelings are good when you understand the message in each one.  However, if you don’t understand The Secret Language of Feelings, this emotion can work against you resulting in feeling ever more motivated to do those crazy things that people do, like eating too much, drinking too much, and so on. 

The graphic on the left shows how the feel bad and then distract cycle can lead to frustration.

You will also be introduced to a strange new concept, “normal healthy depression.”  Yes, depression can be a healthy feeling when you know what the message is.  That controversial idea is introduced in this program.

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In this program, I start to get into the story about why people do such crazy stuff, like eating too much when they want to lose weight, or drinking alcohol when they want to be sober, or working too much when they want to have a better home life and so on.

What you learn is that people have feelings that are painful, such as anger, sadness, loneliness, and such.  But since we have been made to feel bad about feeling bad, then we have learned to deny, ignore, and repress our feelings.  We learned somewhere along the way that we can do this by simply taking our mind off of the bad feeling and what is causing us to feel that way by placing our minds on something else.  As a result, when we feel bad, the over eaters eat, the drinkers drink, the smokers smoke, and the sex-aholics (well, you get the idea).

Take a look at the graphic on the left.  It shows how we can feel bad and then distract.  Then when the distraction is over, we feel bad once again.

This process is reinforced because we feel better when we distract, and the habit develops.  But it makes things worse.  Since we don’t do anything about what is causing the feeling, the feeling persists and leads to frustration.  We will talk more about this in the next program. 

When you learn how your feelings really work, you get back a sense of control in your life, and really begin to use a very special kind of innate wisdom that you have been ignoring.  Those feelings are there to help and guide you to a happier and more successful life.

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Welcome to this very brief introductory episode to The Secret Language of Feelings Program.  It is just a couple of minutes long, but it lets you know what is coming up.  You are going to learn why people do such crazy things, such as eating too much when you want to lose weight, drinking when you want to be sober, and so on.  You are going to learn that all feelings are good.  They are there to help and guide you, and when you learn The Secret Language of Feelings you spend a lot less time feeling bad and a lot more time being happy and leading a more satisfying life. 

Also, since this secret language is a kind of wisdom, you will better understand what you want in life, as well as what others really want.  In a way, you will actually have an unfair advantage over others who don’t understand what their feelings are telling them to do.  As a matter of fact, it will make you into a better person, a better parent, coach, spouse or manager.  You will be a better communicator, as well.

So, keep checking back, it is time to learn the truth about emotions. As the programs are published, we will get into how to start using these feelings to create a much happier and successful life, and take control of what you are doing.  Many will find that they can stop eating too much, drinking too much, shopping too much, and so on, and never feel deprived, rather they will be more satisfied with the lives they are living than ever before!

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